Do you ever wonder: “Is it possible to be endlessly happy?”
Life is a series of ups and downs. We have days where everything feels right, and then everything seems to fall apart! We wish we can stay on top and feel tall all the time – but such can’t be the case.
The best that we can do is build a life around sustainable happiness.
What is sustainable happiness?
An easy indicator of happiness is a hearty smile. But who can put up a smile 100% of the time? I bet there’s none!
We experience a wide range of emotions based on our daily encounters. Experiences differ every day, and so we tend to have varied reactions and feelings.
Sustainable happiness is all about emotional and mental confidence.
It is peace, calm, bliss, and confidence rolled into one. It’s a never-ending river that flows with positivity and good vibes. There could be days where it flows more strongly, more gently, more calmly – but what matters is that this river never dies.
How to achieve sustainable happiness?
Building your life around sustainable happiness is a life-long project.
To push you in the right direction, here are five simple ways to get you started:
1. Find your passion
What is something that truly mattered to you? Is there an activity or a cause that keeps you going for days or staying late at night? Do you find yourself going the extra mile?
Passion is the fuel of our life’s journey. In my experience, I am passionate about surfing. It is the reason I eat clean and make sure I’m fit. And I’m happy about it!
How it works:
This drive to get better every time I hit the waters makes me feel good. And whenever I reach a surfing milestone, I am stoked. I can always go back to training and surfing as a sustainable source of happiness.
2. Define your values
Have you ever thought about your “deal makers” or “deal breakers”? When you make decisions in life, what do you consider?
Regrets come from sacrificing or compromising our values. We commit this when we don’t have well-defined values in the first place.
What are your top values? I value my independence, autonomy, and freedom above anything else.
How it works:
Since I know what matters to me, I avoid situations that cause me to compromise what I value most.
On the other hand, I find happiness in activities that allow me to exhibit my values. I travel solo, keep my own apartment, and hold a steady job. Nothing feels better than being free and independent!
3. Care for yourself
When was the last time you pampered yourself? What importance do you place on making yourself feel good, fit, and healthy? In your daily tasks and activities, is there room for self-care and appreciation?
A person who would abandon, sabotage, or “let go” of himself/herself can’t be happy in the long run.
How it works:
I am most happy when I keep my figure in check and see that I have healthy, clear skin. I make sure that I get enough rest, don’t work too hard, and nourish myself inside and out.
For others, self-care can go in different ways. Some women live getting manicures and pedicures. Heavy people lose the extra weight. Men make sure that they have a nice haircut, shave, and crisp shirts.
What’s important here is that you’re keeping an eye on your well-being.
4. Reach out and expand
How connected are you to your environment? Do the people around you play a significant role? Are you living a meaningful existence because of your contribution to society?
The great poet John Donne said, “No man is an island”. We are always a part of something larger.
How it works:
I have a tight circle of friends that I turn to for exchanging support. I find satisfaction in knowing that I have uplifted a person in need. Online communities make me empathize and feel a sense of belonging. I might be far from family (I live alone), but it helps to feel less lonely when I realize that I am a part of something larger.
5. Build something that grows
Besides your career and life in general, what else do you nurture? Do you look forward to leaving a legacy? What is it that you live for? Do you use your talents for something meaningful?
The products of your labor and actions tell whether you are “simply existing” or “living a meaningful life”. When you reflect on life and see progress, you will feel accomplished and thus happier.
Think about it now: What aspects of your life are focused on growth?
How it works:
Some people build a life centered around their careers or a family of their own. It keeps them going. Talented people share their art and performance to inspire the rest of us. Athletes compete and take pride in their victories.
In my situation, it is a puzzle piece that I am yet to add to my life. I am looking forward to establishing something precious that I will hold onto . It will make me feel happy by realizing that it exists in my life.
Be patient, persistent, and stay motivated
Depending on where you are in life, sustainable happiness might take some time to establish. For most people, it doesn’t happen overnight.
Take concrete steps and perform doable actions.
The first step is knowing that you want sustainable happiness.
Ponder on these five simple ways and think about how you can relate to each section. Sooner or later, you will be confident when asked: “Is it possible to be constantly happy?”
What are you planning to do to achieve happiness? Leave us a comment and tell us what you think!